What Should I Do If The Man I love Blocked Me On Facebook
“If someone goes out of his way to avoid you, he is not ignoring you; he is fascinated with you.”
That phrase is one of my favorites since it is so accurate. Consider that for a minute. Every woman who visits our site and chooses to follow the no contact rule is technically infatuated with her former lover. He is on her mind from the moment she wakes up for the day, till she gets in her vehicle to go to work, and until she shuts her eyes to sleep.
However, the problem you’re having is that he’s fascinated with you for the wrong reasons.
Are You Obsessed For The Wrong Reasons?
This is when things start to get a bit difficult. Consider the following examples:
(A lady entering a no-contact period vs. a former boyfriend blocking that woman)
Okay, a lady who learns about the no-contact rule on our website will most likely want her former lover back. That implies she is probably flooded with pleasant emotions when she thinks about him. Sure, there may have been some very terrible arguments and the relationship was not as strong as she imagined, but if she is ready to attempt the no contact rule, she presumably still wants things to work and loves her partner.
I’d call this “obsessed,” but for the correct reasons (being obsessive isn’t always a good thing, as I’ll explain soon, but stick with me here.)
Let’s look at an ex-boyfriend who has chosen to ban his ex-girlfriend. To begin with, being blocked by an ex-partner is never a nice thing. Let us not belabor the point. This is very dangerous if you have been blocked.
However, as I said before, if an ex blocks you, it is likely that a part of him is fascinated with you.
Regrettably, he is infatuated with you for all the wrong reasons. This phenomena can only be described in one manner, in my opinion. You irritate your ex-boyfriend. When he thinks about you, he is overwhelmed with irritation rather than pleasant emotions. While he thinks about you often, the emotions he experiences aren’t positive.
The difficulty will be determining whether he is worth the work needed to convert his negative emotions into happy ones, but more on that later.
For the time being, I’d want to go a bit further into the psyche of a guy who has blocked you.
Why Did He Block You?
I’m going to offer you the greatest edge you’ve ever had.
I am a guy who has previously blocked women. Some of the women I blocked were ex-wives, while others were just pals who had pushed me to the point where I couldn’t cope with them any more. I’m going to tell you precisely what prompted me to block these ladies. In addition, I have actually seen hundreds of women blocked by their ex-partners, so I am familiar with all of the primary causes for a “block” to occur.
My point here is that what I discuss on this page may be difficult to hear, but it will prepare you and maybe cause some light lights to go out. Let’s start with one of the most intriguing reasons a guy may block you.
It hurts too much to speak with you.
This is something I have firsthand knowledge of, which is why I know it exists. In reality, this is something I often have to explain to my one-on-one coaching clients.
I suppose if there was ever a good cause for a former boyfriend to block you, this would be it.
This operates on the basis that every time your ex speaks to you on the phone or through text message, he suffers.
Not the sort of pain when you fall and scrape your knee. No, I’m referring about a deep wound. The kind of pain that follows you around all day and is hard to shake.
If you’re curious about my circumstance, I wasn’t formally dating the lady I blocked. In reality, this was years ago, and I was beginning to have emotions for her. Feelings that were not returned. As a man, I can tell you that it’s a really humbling experience when you’re on top of the world because you believe a beautiful lady is falling for you, and then BAM!!
You realize, like a Chuck Norris strike, that your emotions are one-sided.
Now, I am the kind of person that remains cool and elegant even when things do not go my way (and believe me I have had a lot in my life.) However, knowing that someone does not feel “that way” about you may be extremely distressing, and it can have a negative impact on your mental health.
I decided to block this specific girl not to be cruel or “get back” at her (which I will discuss later), but because it hurt to speak to her when I knew my emotions weren’t reciprocated (kind of held it against her.)
“But Chris, maybe if you had waited a little longer, she would have woken up and recognized the ideal man was there in front of her.”
I’m sorry, but my time is precious, and I’m not one to be manipulated. Besides, the ideal lady, in my opinion, would know straight immediately and will not need time to “sort out” her emotions.
The major point I’m trying to make regarding your former lover banning you in this case is as follows. Perhaps he remembers your time with fondness. Maybe he’s fascinated with you for the right reasons, but talking to you hurts too much.
It hurts because every time he does it, his emotions for you come to the surface, and your relationship may have been extremely painful for him. Therefore terrible that he doesn’t want to think about it right now, so he decides to exclude you from his life.
I want you to remember that blocking an ex is never a positive indication. So, although this is arguably the best case scenario for being blocked, it is never a nice thing.
(Don’t worry, I’ll give you a game plan for dealing with being blocked later.)
He understands that blocking you will do you harm.
There will always be former boyfriends out there who carry grudges against you and want vengeance.
What Are Your Chances of Reuniting with Your Ex Boyfriend?
Because I used to be one of these kinds of ex-boyfriends. I know that’s a terrible thing for me to say, but I’m not embarrassed of it. Look, one thing you must realize about guys is that we are seldom mature in our first few relationships.
In my first relationship, I was a little immature.
Now that I think about it, I simply shake my head at how stupid I was. However, being the immature fool that I previously was was beneficial because it taught me how to grow into a more mature guy. When I looked back, I was unhappy with how I had behaved, and I tried hard to ensure that I did not make the same errors in my future relationships. To put it another way, being immature at initially was necessary for me to grow into a more mature and classy human being.
You may be wondering right now,
“What if this applies just to you? What if it’s not the same for other men?
That is, in fact, an excellent point.
I’d say there’s a 50/50 split in how guys utilize past relationships to influence future partnerships (which we hope is you again.) Some guys, like myself, will learn from their errors and swear never to repeat them. In almost any circumstance, they will stay elegant and mature.
However, it is because of the other kind of guys that this part was written. They will not learn anything and will not change. In fact, rather than attempting to “fix” your connection, they will want vengeance, and they know that blocking you is the best way to do it. Again, this is a topic that I bring up often in my coaching sessions with clients.
So, I’ll break it down for you the same way I do for them.
We already know that a guy who blocks you in order to get back at you or harm you is not mature in the circumstance. As I previously said, there was a time in my life when I would have had no issue doing this.
Here are the same thoughts I would have had if I had been in your situation:
“I know blocking her will pain her and maybe teach her a lesson…”
That’s really terrible, I know, but that’s precisely what would go through my mind. So, what circumstances do you believe compelled me to think this way?
Why do men “want vengeance,” “teach you a lesson,” or “get back at you?”
If a former boyfriend blocks you to exact vengeance or to harm you, you know straight away that he is acting immaturely about the split. But what I’d want to do is offer you some insight into what circumstances led to his sentiments of revenge.
The first thing I want you to remember is that he is not always entirely to fault for his desire for vengeance. Sure, there are times when your former lover is a monster who seeks vengeance because he is insane. Most former boyfriends, on the other hand, can point to anything YOU did wrong in the relationship. So, let’s not pretend you’re completely blameless in this situation. After all, we are all human beings, and the thing about us is that none of us are flawless.
Every man’s desire is to date a lady who resembles a model. I promise that if you approached a random man on the street and offered him the option of dating an average-looking lady or a girl who looks like a model, he would pick the model 100 percent of the time (even without knowing her personality.)
Of course, most guys are stupid and don’t know they aren’t the only ones with sight. A lady who resembles a model will be hired.